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Gottman Couples Therapy


Gottman Therapy, developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, is a research-based approach designed to improve relationships and strengthen marital bonds. Our psychologists in Calgary provide specialized Gottman Therapy to couples seeking to enhance their connection and resolve conflicts effectively.

Key Components of Gottman Therapy:

  • The Sound Relationship House: Gottman Therapy is grounded in the concept of the "Sound Relationship House," which encompasses various elements crucial for healthy relationships, including trust, communication, intimacy, and conflict resolution.

  • Assessment Tools: Gottman Therapy utilizes evidence-based assessment tools to identify areas of strength and areas needing improvement within the relationship. These assessments help tailor interventions to the specific needs of each couple.

  • The Four Horsemen: Gottman identified four negative communication patterns, known as the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse," which can erode relationships: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Gottman Therapy focuses on replacing these destructive behaviours with healthier communication strategies.

  • Repair and De-Escalation Techniques: Couples learn techniques to repair conflicts and de-escalate arguments effectively. These strategies promote understanding, empathy, and emotional connection, even during disagreements.

  • Building Friendship and Intimacy: Gottman Therapy emphasizes the importance of building friendship and intimacy within the relationship. Couples learn how to nurture fondness, admiration, and appreciation for each other, fostering a strong emotional bond.

  • Love Maps and Shared Meaning: Couples develop "love maps" – a deeper understanding of each other's inner worlds, dreams, and values. Additionally, they work on creating shared meaning and rituals of connection that strengthen their bond over time.



Benefits of Gottman Therapy:

  • Improved Communication: Couples learn effective communication skills that foster understanding, empathy, and validation.

  • Conflict Resolution Skills: Gottman Therapy equips couples with tools to navigate conflicts constructively and find mutually satisfying resolutions.

  • Enhanced Emotional Connection: By focusing on building friendship and intimacy, couples deepen their emotional connection and strengthen their bond.

  • Long-Term Relationship Satisfaction: With its evidence-based approach and practical strategies, Gottman Therapy promotes lasting relationship satisfaction and resilience.

If you're seeking to improve your relationship and build a stronger connection with your partner, Gottman Therapy in Calgary may provide the support and guidance you need. Contact us to learn more about how Gottman Therapy can help you create a happier and more fulfilling relationship.

Gottman Couples Therapy provided in Calgary and online by Marissa and Scott

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